The emotions we experience when falling in love are second to none. I’ve been there too.
If you’ve fallen in love with someone from another country, chances are your main concern is how you can stay together and make it work.
That’s why I’ve dedicated this guide to assist you in achieving this. And to help you decide whether it’s right for you or not.
When we fall in love sometimes we forget that it’s the easy part.
And if we’re dedicated to having a relationship with someone from another part of the world. Several things should be considered.
Without forgetting the importance of following our hearts too.
📖 Table of Contents
- 1. Why Falling in Love and Traveling Often Goes Hand in Hand
- 2. It Takes Time To Get To Know Someone
- 3. Taking Time To Reflect
- 4. Think About the Future
- 5. Think in Time – Not Distance
- 6. Become Familiar With the Cultural Differences
- 7. Look at the Bigger Picture
1. Why Falling in Love and Traveling Often Goes Hand in Hand
Traveling is the ultimate freedom.
Our senses get sharpened. Our minds are more open. And we have positive expectations while in pursuit of joy.
Naturally, this leads to a happier and more energized state of mind. Where we become the most attractive versions of ourselves in the process.
And when we’re far from home in foreign lands, we leave our troubles and often busy schedules behind.
Along with the fear of being judged by others, since most people we meet are temporary, compared to our familiar environment at home.
This makes it easier to open up, make new connections, and share our thoughts and feelings.
This applies to the people we meet too.
And meeting someone from a different country and culture is often refreshing and exciting too.
2. It Takes Time To Get To Know Someone
When we’re surfing the waves of good experiences while traveling, it can feel like a fairy tale that never ends. Especially if we fall in love.
But if you travel long enough you become aware of the whole picture. Both good and bad.
My point is this can also be applied to the person we fall in love with and our relationship with them.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not denying any of the emotions you’re feeling. Or all the things that make traveling magic.
But getting to know someone properly and the potential of a relationship takes time.
And when you’re traveling time is often limited. Hence why it’s important to keep different things in mind compared to meeting someone at home.
If we don’t we risk taking the wrong decisions resulting in heartbreak. And to a certain extent sacrifice our dreams in the process.
And if we postpone or sacrifice our ambitions when we shouldn’t, tend to eventually sneak up on us. Often with interest to pay in terms of frustration or regret.
In this case, it could for example be our remaining travel itinerary or life at home.
3. Taking Time To Reflect
When you’re in love the last thing you want to do is be by yourself.
I’m not suggesting you should have a break, avoid contact, or be away from each other for months.
But if you’ve spent a fair amount of time together, a shorter time apart can be a wise thing to do.
This will give both of you a better time to reflect on everything.
It’s also a good way to ensure the person you’re in love with is as serious as you are.
And no matter what happens after, chances are it will be more real.
There’s no recipe for this, and it’s ultimately your decision what’s the proper timeframes.
4. Think About the Future
I know it might seem overwhelming, and maybe it’s too early to consider the future right now. Only you have the answer to this.
But it’s worth giving some thought about how you see your shared future.
Whether it’s a long-distance relationship, moving to the same country, or traveling the world together.
I know that the last option requires money or an income. But we’ll get into that in a minute.
Let’s take a look at the different scenarios.
Committing to a Long-distance Relationship
While I’ve never been in one, I’ve intensively researched the topic to provide you with the best perspectives.
And I’m not going to lie telling you a long-distance relationship is easy.
Besides the initial doubting thoughts it can provoke, it is hard and many don’t last.
With that said, nothing is more motivating than love.
Especially if having a long-distance relationship is temporary.
And some people make it work in the long run too.
If you commit to this, whether it’s temporary or long-term, I highly suggest educating yourselves on the topic to increase the chances of making it work.
Moving to Another Country
If one of you decides to move to a new country there’s no way to avoid compromises.
Since you can’t be in two places at the same time. One of you has to accept the fact that you’ll be away from home for longer periods.
While this doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it’s still something that should be considered and accepted.
This often means seeing your family and friends less. Though this can also be a good thing.
There’s a chance you’ll have more quality time with your family over quantity. And the friends that tend to stick are usually the ones worth keeping.
And starting a new life in another country can be exciting and give new opportunities. Along with some of the best memories yet to come.
Chances are you’ll learn new things, and meet friends and family you just haven’t met among other things.
But it also depends on whether either of you can start a life in a new country.
First of all by obtaining the right visa and having money or a sustainable income.
Starting a Career Online
Succeeding in this requires time and energy just like any other job.
Especially if you’re current job or profession isn’t digital. But certainly not impossible.
Considering geographical freedom is one of the many advantages, it can be a worthwhile investment.
If going remote with your current job, or starting a new career online sounds interesting to you, I suggest reading this other guide:
5. Think in Time – Not Distance
No matter what you decide for the future, chances are you’ll be traveling between countries.
Whether you’re having a long-distance relationship, or living together and going back home for a while.
It’s easy to get drawn into the feeling of being far away based on the physical distance.
But by looking at things differently, you can be in most places in the world in under 24-48 hours.
Which in many ways makes more sense. And can result in a more peaceful state of mind.
6. Become Familiar With the Cultural Differences
If the person you’ve fallen in love with comes from a very different culture than your own, it makes sense to educate yourself on it.
Depending on how much you’ve been traveling, you probably know that what seems logical to you, doesn’t necessarily apply to the rest of the world.
Besides your natural interest, there’s also another important aspect to this.
Primary when it comes to understanding your partner. And navigating expectations and the future together.
As a big bonus, it will also make it easier for you to get to know your in-laws.
7. Look at the Bigger Picture
It’s not always an easy task of involving both our hearts and mind when making a decision.
But an efficient way to balance it out is by looking at the bigger picture.
This will often give you the best perspectives, and reveal things you might haven’t considered in the present.
Be aware that you’re not sacrificing more than what’s good for you in terms of your own needs and dreams.
But also consider that if you truly believe the person you’re in love with could be the one. Then it’s most likely worth giving a chance.
Even though heartbreaks are hard, regret for not trying can be harder.
And nothing has to be a definitive decision.
You can often take the number of steps you’re comfortable with over time.
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